geri's take on feminism

i realised that no matter how much feminism plays a role in the society today, there will always be this silent fear about what a woman may experience if she happens to bump into the wrong type of people. i see the news about rape, about snatch theft, about abduction and about murder and most of the victims are female.

what is it about us, that makes us so weak?

sometimes when i want to go to the nearest store to get a few items, i hesitate when i have to go alone, and usually when i can walk there i prefer to drive instead. last time when i walk by the guard house, there would be this one guard that disturbs me, and i hate that. i mean, you are employed to be a guard so what the hell are you doing disturbing the residents whom you are supposed to be guarding?

it just does not make sense, even as i walk into centerpoint, there will be this one guy who will always whistle or make some kissing noises whenever i walk past. how can i avoid him? he is working in the first shop there. cant these men just keep quiet and not make a sound whenever a girl walks by?

there are many times when i wish i could just scream at all these men. these useless assholes who have no sense of respect whatsoever for women. i feel fear whenever i see a guy on a motorcycle coming towards my direction, no, i feel fear whenever i hear a motorcycle coming.

there was once, i just got out of my car in front of MY own home and there were these bunch of kids walking by, around 16 or 17 yrs old.and i heard them say
"wah besar-nye tetek"
in front of my mother and in front of my sister.
these stupid, insensitive bloody uneducated boys who have no respect at all for other people, who don't even care about what the other person may feel should seriously be punished severely. i wish i could just slap them with all the hatred and anger i was feeling at that time, crime or no crime. if we do not correct them now then when? when a crime has already been done? when someone has been hurt? when someone has been killed? perhaps im'm taking this too far to say that something like that may arise, but frankly speaking, in this world today, where men and women are considered to be equals, we are still treated with lots of disrespect, especially from these narrow minded people.

what really pisses me off is when such a crime occurs and the blame is placed unto the victim. you have MEN saying "oh its her fault for wearing such provocative dressing" or things like "women are like meat, if you leave it exposed, you don't blame the cats for eating it right?"

i've heard of PREGNANT women being raped. elderly ladies. were they dressed provocatively?
i've heard of women who were wearing decent attire being raped. her fault is it,now?
these MEN who blame women can't seem to see beyond anything else, they dont have the guts to admit that it is THEM who are unable to control themselves.so blame it on the "weaker" sex, uh?

those people in authority, dont they see what is going on?
sometimes in schools also, where such sexual teasings occur, the school don't do anything about it.
i have a friend who is very well endowed, and she used to walk with a slouch just so that no one will pay attention to her. during recess, sometimes we share the canteen with the 4th and 5th formers. and usually the ones who will be talking about her will be the malay guys sitting near our table.
"WAH BESAR NYE TETEK... AKU PUN DAH NAIK"
as a prefect, what could i do? in a boy's school the girl prefects were not really supposed to reprimand the boys, but i just couldn't stand it, and i walked over to that table and glared at him until he shut up. what can i really do, i mean, if i were to open my mouth, i am, frankly outnumbered there. even as a person in authority i was, to a certain extent rather helpless. but i did try my best.

i really hope that one day, the laws will be modified so that women will be better protected. i hope that those in authority, will understand the little trials that we have to go through everyday, that feeling of paranoia that engulfs us all sometimes. i hope that those in authority will stop squabbling over petty petty stuff which seems so inconsequential in the large picture and look at the root of the problems when it comes to sexual crimes. i hope that women will no longer be the one that the blame falls upon and that education to respect the different sexes starts from the very first time a child is educated.

i hope that the term "equality between the sexes" is trully personified, with no exceptions, no 'buts' and no conditions.